We got our engagement pictures back & I love them. I've got such a handsome man.
So there they are. We had a lot of fun.
There are more, but I am too lazy to post them.. so these will have to do. ;)
Side note: After this shoot I shaved Robs head with a #3, and I cut off ALL of my hair. Ha.
(I'm trying to get the dye out!)
So since engagements usually lead to weddings, I've been collecting all the "data" we need for our guest list.
HOW in the WORLD did folks get the info they needed without the Internet? Seriously, data collecting was so much easier than I thought it would be.
Out of 107 addresses needed, I got 93 of them in 6 hours time-- either via email, facebook or the white pages. Some folks didn't respond to my emails, and I didn't send emails to about 8 people because I am still not sure if we can invite them-- but for most of my family I know what city they live in, and could recognize their street name so the white pages online were especially helpful for that.
Now I just need to settle on a Save-the-Date and invitation design.
I managed to get a "wedding blog" started in lieu of a wedding website-- mainly because I know how to WORK a blog, and don't feel like dealing with a website.. I spent a lot of time on a FAQ page mainly for the purpose of driving home the fact that we are not inviting children to the wedding, and I've been reading HORROR stories online about this.
Honestly, I don't really understand why parents insist on bringing their children to events they are not invited to. If I were a parent, I would love the opportunity to have an evening/afternoon amongst adults and it's not like you get last minute notice for a wedding. Usually you receive an invite 6-8 weeks in advance, I'm sure you can find SOMEONE reliable to babysit.
Etiquette would suggest that only those addressed on the invitation are invited, and yet, most brides/grooms requesting that parents leave the little ones at home by omitting their names on the envelope, received RSVP cards back indicating the whole family would be coming. Awkward.
I am of the school that it is tacky to write "Adults Only" on the invitation, and I've also heard that word of mouth is practically useless.. so I'm at a loss.
Here is my issue on the kids thing-- I have a HUGE family (on BOTH sides, and I have step-family too) that means there are a lot of children & teenagers-- I honestly really enjoy my cousins, BUT my venue does not require that we have a "licensed" bartender, which means any under-aged drinking/debauchery is something we are liable for since WE are renting the place. Really, I'm just not interested in making sure this doesn't happen at our wedding, so the solution is, 21 & up only. The venue not requiring us to have a licensed/insured bartender was one of the reasons we CHOSE the venue because that cuts alcohol costs practically in half. A major perk when you are on the starving-artist budget.
The second issue is, since I do indeed have a large (& wonderful) family we've had to "B-list" a lot of our friends. Friends that we do not get to see often now that we live in a different part of the state, and friends whom I'd like to invite over my 20 kid-cousins.
So here is how I approached it on my FAQ section of the wedding blog, tell me what you think:
A: While we love to watch children run and play, this event will be an adults only day!
If anyone, in or out of state, needs assistance in making arrangements for child care, please let us know and we will do our best to assist you.
Q: May I bring my Furry, scaly or teenaged child?
A: Unfortunately, we are only able to accommodate humans over the age of 21 at our wedding.
I tried to approached it lightheartedly-- but I wanted to make the point.
No kids. No teenagers too. Sorry.
I have two couples from out-of-state with children and I plan on addressing them separately since it is likely they will be making the trip to Florida with their children (ya know, Disney & Orlando go hand in hand). I think they are a fair exception to the rule.. right?
There is also the possibility no one will check out the site, and I will just have to be blunt about it.
Welp-- my morning has flown on by.
I hope the week treats you all well.